Post One in Sexual Dysfunction Series

Female sexual dysfunction has been in the news a lot in the last few years. In March 1998, a little blue pill was introduced that revolutionized our world. We now had erections on demand, and things were never quite the same.

Thanks to the miracles of modern pharmacology, droopy dicks could now be stiffened  into cyborgcock perfection. And men everywhere heaved a huge sigh of relief. Unfortunately, the female partners of such men were often less thrilled than their husbands. Wives, who had been perfectly happy to roll over and go to sleep, were now expected to display the libidinal equivalent of their mate's newly rejuvenated joystick. And Viagra made it glaringly apparent that, in many cases, they weren't up to the task.

I will always have a soft spot for this woman. She gave me my first orgasm! Well, not literally. I read her book The Hite Report when I was 14. Suffice to say, it was a life changer. It was the first time that I ever heard the word "clitoris". I knew nothing about my body or female sexuality prior to her book. When I finished it, I was not only orgasmic, but my worldview had been turned upside down.

I grew up in a home where sex was not discussed, and my mother was clearly extremely uncomfortable with the subject, as was my grandmother. You could also say the same thing about our entire uptight country. Most women are still not told anything about the clit. And sex education is still nonexistent in most schools.

I recently came across some interesting information. I just found out about Yahoo Clues. This is a keyword search tool that gives a webmaster demographic information about the type of person who is searching for a certain keyword. Usually, it provides info about who has looked up a particular topic over a certain time span.

Naturally, I had to look up my dissertation topic, female sexual dysfunction. And this is what I found. There was absolutely nothing for "female sexual dysfunction", but there was information for the terms "women sexual dysfunction" and "sexual dysfunction".

With the "personhood bill" being considered in several states, and unfortunately passed by the house in North Dakota and in the Iowa House subcommittee, women's reproductive freedom is very much in jeopardy. In essence, any fertilized egg would have legal rights with this legislation.

The personhood bill would would ban abortion in all cases and even birth control methods like the pill and the IUD. It would possibly limit In-Vitro fertilization. These are scary times to be a reproductively viable, sexually active woman. So, I am showing another documentary on this issue. It is also by Dorothy Fadiman, and it is called Motherhood by Choice: Not Chance.

This is a great quote from Esther Perel's book "Mating in Captivity". Perel, a psychologist who works with couples, had this to say about the nature of desire and why it so often takes a hike in long-term relationships.

For those who aspire to accelerate their heartbeat periodically, I give them the score: excitement is interwoven with uncertainty, and with our willingness to embrace the unknown rather than to shield ourselves from it. But this very tension leaves us feeling vulnerable. I caution my patients that there is no such thing as "safe sex".  

                                                                                                           -- Esther Perel