Many years ago, I had a co-worker who frequently showed up for work covered in bruises - a gift from her drug abusing boyfriend. These bruises were huge, all over her body, and were as black as his rage must have been. I begged her to leave him, offered to store her furniture, and spent countless hours trying to help her problem solve her situation (part-time job, no money, alcohol abuse, and a boyfriend who mistook her for a punching bag). It was to no avail. Everything I recommended, she shot down. She was too afraid.

She worried about losing her possessions in a domestic violence shelter (a not unlikely scenario). And she was afraid of making it on her own again. Truthfully, I don't know all of her demons. And we lost touch. She quit her job, didn't have a phone, and I didn't know how to reach her. I don't know what happened to her. I hope to God that wherever she is today she is okay and safe.

If you've ever watched your favorite tabby cats mate, you've probably noticed that there's a lot of yowling, biting, scratching, and other good, clean fun going on - sometimes even before the main event! Perhaps, cats are the natural BDSM enthusiasts of the animal kingdom because cat sex hurts - a lot - according to this video. And they keep on having it over and over again. A female cat in heat will fuck till she drops.

It  seems that mother nature equipped the male cat's penis with spiky backward pointing barbs that trigger ovulation in the female by painfully scraping the walls of the vagina (OUCH!!) as he exits. I'm sure glad I'm not a cat, though they are cute. Anyway, here are kitties, both domestic and feral, getting buck wild.

For those who want to turn up the heat and do more than turkey trot on Thanksgiving Day, here is another reason to serve pumpkin pie. According to Alan Hirsch, M.D., director of the Chicago-based Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, the smell of pumpkin spice increases penile blood flow by 40% - leading to better stiffies.

The combination of pumpkin and lavender was also a winner, and pumpkin seeds are healthful for male sexual functioning as well. So, just dab a little pie on your neck, and you're good to go. Just kidding. Better yet, try this recipe. Hirsch also found that black licorice increased penile blood flow by 13%. To arouse a woman, it's probably better to make a salad. Women are aroused by the smell of cucumber - particularly, cucumber and candy. Oddly, male cologne decreased arousal in women.

So, Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

I have always been interested in tantra but haven't had much luck in finding partners willing to try it. Most of them considered it fooey. So, here's a hilarious video for all of you who think that eye gazing, extended orgasms, semen retention, and Sting's reputed eight hour shagathons are total bullshit. Personally, I'm still willing to give it a try. But to each his own. I just hope I don't turn out like this guy lol.



From The New School of Erotic Touch

Today, I masturbated for the first time in at least a three weeks. Now, that may not sound like anything to you, but to me it is quite a change. Up until a few years ago, I had a robust sex drive and wanted some form of sexual activity at least three or four times a week.

If there was no partner present, I took matters into my own more than able hands. Since I hit my forties, my sex drive has been up and down and all around the block. But mostly down.

However, when I was 41, I thought I had turned into a nymphomaniac. My libido went through the roof! Unfortunately, I had a partner who couldn't keep up and who had both sex drive and erectile dysfunction issues. So, I had a lot of DIY sex.

This guy likes to be naked a lot - so, it was just a matter of time till he made my man candy list. Lol. He is gorgeous and great musician, which sadly isn't a very common occurrence. Just take a look at Mick Jagger, Rod Stewart and Marilyn Manson to see what I mean. It seems like a lot of great rock stars have more talent than beauty. But not Lenny. Wow, he is smokin...

This video from Em & Lo addresses the issue of whether or not women can orgasm from just penetration alone. Most of the answers indicate the variety of women's experiences. For most women, the answer is no. According to sex researcher Shere Hite, only about 30%  of women are orgasmic just from intercourse itself.

It's important to remember that the equivalent organ to the penis is not the vagina; it's the clitoris. Both the clitoris and the penis develop out of the same embryonic material, so naturally most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Unfortunately, that's not what most of us see in porn and on the silver screen. For many women, combining clitoral stimulation (via your hand, his hand, or a vibe) with intercourse is more likely to lead to orgasm.

Some women have luck using the CAT (coital alignment technique). In this position, the woman opens her legs slightly in the missionary position, while her pelvis is angled upward. The man aligns his pelvis and rocks against her pelvic bone, as the woman thrusts her hips forward. He needs to be far higher up her body than in the traditional missionary position.

And the most important thing is to keep her clitoris in contact with the base of his penis. The movement used for this technique involves rocking together, rather than the man just thrusting away. This position can also be used with the woman's legs closed and with her on top. It creates an indirect form of clitoral stimulation that will work for some women. For other women, direct clit stimulation is going to be needed - so break out the vibe.