Particularly, when the only time we see women experiencing an orgasm is in the movies, or even worse (in terms of realism), in porn. There, they are so blown out of proportion that our own orgasms seem like a fart in world-wind by comparison. Then, I think that perfectly orgasmic women start thinking they are not orgasmic, when they are.
I started masturbating when I was 14, and I had an orgasm on my very first attempt. Naturally, I continued petting the kitty and still do. Lol. However, I never knew until I was in my early 20s whether or not what I was experiencing was an orgasm, or just arousal. I had all the signs: build up of tension, definite peak, and clitoral hypersensitivity after my peak.
But I thought it would be much, much bigger, more like a grand mal seizure! When my head didn't spin around and explode, I assumed I wasn't coming. Lucky for me, I was seeing a knowledgeable shrink at the time, and she enlightened me. Orgasms vary in intensity from one time to another and from person to person. Some are big, some are little blips, and some are like shaking hands with God. Betty's right, they're all good.
From Dodson and Ross: What Does and Orgasm Feel Like?
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